3 Reasons Why I can No Longer be a Stay at Home Mom #MondayBlogs

I’m back in the job market. I wasn’t going to tell anyone that I’m going back to a day job, but it’s going to be part of my life so I may as well expose it. ;) I lost my last full-time job three years ago this month, and since then I’ve been working on a career as a stay at home mom/romance author. I’m not finished with my writing quest by any means, but I can no longer be a SAHM for several reasons.

1. I’m bored. I can only write while my three and a half year old daughter is asleep. She doesn’t take naps anymore, so that means I get up at 5:00 a.m. and write till she wakes up. I have often said that I work harder as a mom than I did at any office job, and that’s still true, but spending seven days a week doing laundry, dishes, grocery shopping, and trying to keep up the house doesn’t challenge my brain. Sure, I have some down time (when Energizer Girl allows me a moment to sit) when I could read or do something for me, but when I get bored, I eat, and when I eat too much I get depressed. That drains the desire to do anything fun.

2. I need a dependable income. I tasted writing success early. My publisher released Tell Me You Want Me in June 2012 and by September it was in Amazon’s Top 500. Within six months, my royalties nearly equaled the full-time salary I’d lost. I thought my income would keep increasing as I published more books, but the post-holiday retail slump set in and sales dropped. I’d seen that happen while I was self-published so I didn’t worry, but the second quarter of 2013 was even worse. Many economic and publishing experts predicted a turn-around in the third quarter, but it never happened. I can’t live like this. I thought I’d reached the point where I could live on my writing income, but it didn’t last. I want to focus on writing without worrying about how well my books are selling. And if I have another income, I’ll be able to put more money into advertising and promotion. Someday I’ll be able to support myself and my family as a writer, but it’s going to take a while longer.

3. My daughter needs friends other than me. This is the most important reason. Energizer Girl is an only child. She gets my full attention, but the drawback is I’m all she has. She goes to preschool two days a week and she loves it. Every day of her two and half week holiday break, she begged me to take her to school. Poor baby missed her friends. She’s got lots of imaginary friends (even an imaginary mom), but she needs real social interaction. I have nothing in common with her school friends’ moms, and all the moms my age have kids in their twenties. If I go back to work full-time, she’ll be in daycare with kids her age. She needs that. I need that.

So I updated my resume and posted it on all the major job sites. I’m looking for something in social media. I don’t know if I’ll find it in this town, but I can wait for the right opportunity. I’ll keep getting up at 5:00 a.m. to write, and soon I’ll have a lunch break I can spend writing. And maybe I’ll regain a little bit of my sanity. I’ll be working full-time, writing part-time, promoting part-time, raising a child full-time, keeping house evenings and weekends…. How much time is that? Wait, did I say sanity?

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About Amelia James

Amelia James started reading steamy romance novels in junior high, but her mom took them away from her, so she started daydreaming instead. After she got married, she wrote some of her naughtier daydreams down and sent them to Playgirl magazine. Two of them got published. She kept daydreaming and writing stories until her dirty stories turned into trashy books. She lives in Colorado, but she’ll always be a loyal Wisconsin Cheesehead. When she’s not lusting after her next bad boy hero, she looks for inspiration in sci-fi and action movies, football players, bloodsucking lawyers, muscle cars, and kick-butt chicks.
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6 Responses to 3 Reasons Why I can No Longer be a Stay at Home Mom #MondayBlogs

  1. My sales have been terrible, too! What’s going on?

  2. mikey2ct says:

    Good luck hunting, Amelia. I know where you;re at – I raised my two boys, as a single parent starting 38 years ago when my ex split !

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