Last week when I came up with the idea for this blog feature, I thought I’d be good at it because I always learn from my mistakes. Wrong, dumbass. Even as the thought crossed my mind, I knew it was going to come back to bite me in the ass. So my gem for this week – stop making the same mistakes.
I promised Bring Back Desire I’d write a Valentine’s story for them. I came up with an easy idea, but writing it was harder than I expected. My story was boring. I didn’t even want to read it. I tried different things to fix it, even making mistakes on purpose, but nothing worked. I literally threw my laptop across the room. It landed on the bed and bounced fortunately. With help from my deviously clever muse and a smart-ass sexy Tweep, I figured out what the problem was. And much to my shame, it was a mistake I’ve made many times. I was avoiding the conflict.
Conflict! I wanted to write a happy couple, but I started with them happy. Happy is boring! That’s why romances end with happily ever after. No one wants to read normal, happy people. They want to read how flawed people got to happy, what problems they struggled to overcome, how they earned that happy ending.
Now that I’m sufficiently humbled—I hope—I can offer this shiny gem to you. If you catch yourself making the same mistake over and over, step back and figure out why or at least smack a sticky note on your forehead so you don’t do it again. I’m afraid of conflict. Not sure why, but now that I know I am, I can beat my fear into submission and make conflict my bitch. Hey—that sounds like a story I’d like to read.